As you may have seen, yesterday we launched a forum to accompany the site (which can be found here). Now we need your help.
Essentially the question is whether or not people who don’t ID as a woman/girl (but who are feminist/allies) should be allowed to participate in the forum or if we should have it as a woman/girl-only space.
The proposal is to open the forum to people of all genders, but to have a 101 board so that discussions elsewhere do not get derailed, and to have a password-protected woman/girl-only space.
What do you think?
Please help us out, we’re really looking for your feedback on this one. Any comments are greatly appreciated.
Kristin tweets at @kristincraiglai and blogs at ShutUpLucille.com She is also a feminist life coach practising in Toronto.
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